Addiction and Codependency

Have you ever felt powerless over your partner's use or addictive behavior?  Have you ever struggled with engaging in behaviors or substances that impact your relationship? Do you ever feel like you have to defend your partner's, or your own, behavior to minimize the social impacts of the addictive behavior? Couples therapy for individuals struggling with addiction or partners struggling with codependency works to educate both partners on the cycle of addiction, provide resources to build a supportive network, and encourages partners to move away from the codependent behavior that has been guiding their life choices in the past. This type of therapy helps individuals to build confidence, assertively communicate, and support each other on the path to sobriety. 

Why are codependents attracted to addicts?

Codependents tend to be people-pleasers who put their relationship with someone else above their own interests, often to the detriment of both parties. Codependents tend to enable addicts because, subconsciously, they believe they need that addict to remain sick.

Codependence is sometimes described as an addiction to another person, rather than a substance. When substance abuse develops into addiction, even the closest interpersonal relationships erode. It can be very difficult for someone suffering from addiction to build and maintain healthy relationships — as a result, codependence and addiction often occur together.

SAMHSA National Helpline

Confidential free help, from public health agencies, to find substance use treatment and information. 


Consultation Request

If you are in crisis, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, a free, 24-hour hotline at 1.800.273.8255. If your issue is an emergency, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room. If you need local crisis intervention/support in the Bay Area, check out Bay Area Suicide Crisis & Intervention Alliance (BASCIA) online. I do not offer crisis counseling or emergency services. 


Katherine Meek is a Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist (AMFT 117725) and a Registered Associate Practitioner of Clinical Counselor (APCC 7649) at Couples Recovery Center and is supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, a Couples Counselor, and is an employee of Harry Motro, Psy.D., Marriage and Family Therapist, P.C., which is a Professional Corporation. Couples Recovery Center provides specialized couples counseling and includes the following professionals:



The recommendations on this website do not constitute professional advice, substitute for professional treatment, or establish a therapeutic relationship.

© 2020 by K.Meek Therapy